I’ve been hurting for a while now and I feel that it is time to explain why.
Every day I work very hard at being a wife and a mom and somehow I try and carve out the time to share my life experiences with you, my readers. I’ve always loved writing and I love sharing anything that can be helpful. I dedicate more time to writing this blog than I would to a full time job.
Blogging is much more than writing articles…it’s hours of research, hours of photography, hours of answering emails, and hours or behind the scene and doing technical work, and so much more.
Recently you may have noticed our site has been growing. There are more readers here now than ever before, and while I’m grateful that the word is being spread about simple living, we’ve been having our share of growing pains.
Daily, out of the hundreds of comments we receive, I will receive several comments in the form of Facebook comments, emails, or website comments that personally attack me, my family, my intelligence, or my way of living. We do have a very strict comment policy on this website and I don’t allow those types of things to be posted since they are neither kind nor do they enhance the community we are trying to build and encourage.
I do not, in any way, have tough skin. Putting myself out there has always been a challenge for me, yet I feel that it is my calling to share and encourage others along their journeys.
Very honestly right now my heart is broken and I am writing this post in tears. Words which I have received have been nothing short of horrible.
The things that have been said to me lately about me and about my family have put a heavy burden on my heart. As I mentioned above, while I feel that writing is my calling, I also need to guard my heart so that I do not let these attacks effect my daily life or my family. This puts me in a hard position.
When you comment on a blog or on a website, do you realize that you are talking to a real person?
Do you realize that I have feelings and experience pain just like you?
Do you understand that bloggers have taken countless hours to be able to bring you a post or some new information, and they’ve put their heart and soul behind what they’ve written? How do you think it makes us feel when you decide you don’t like something and instead of just scrolling on to the next thing, you decide to send an email or post a comment telling us how you think we are stupid and useless? Would you appreciate it if I, a total stranger to you, sent you an email saying those things about you and your family?
To put it in another perspective…would you walk up to me at the grocery store, a complete stranger, and tell me how ugly I am? Would you do that? Than why would you send a personal message saying those things? It’s easy to hide behind a computer and pretend like what you are doing is ok, but it’s not in any way. It’s bullying.
Just because I put myself and my ideas out there, does that mean you are allowed to rip me apart and tear me down? Since when is that ok in any situation?
The next time you think about commenting on any blog, or sending an email to a blogger, think about this…Is what I’m saying true? Is it kind? Is it encouraging? Is it constructive? If I was standing in front of the writer of this article, would I say this to her face? I don’t mind if you don’t enjoy every article, I really don’t. Not everything may be relevant for you in your current stage of your journey. But if you don’t have anything nice or at least constructive to say about it, could you please just scroll past it?
Let’s not be the kind of community that gets torn apart. Let’s take a stand for kindness and shine the light into the world around us. If we want to change the world we have to be the change we want to see!